What I mean by that is some people fall pregnant under the most extreme stressful situations, and we don't really know why that is. Which is bloody unfair for you isn't it?
Other's get pregnant who are alcoholics or drug addicts. Or on a lesser scale just women who love to party, or who are maybe a bit overweight (or a lot depending on which expert they are talking to). Even busy, stressed out career women get pregnant, and that's the group of people everyone loves to pick on when it comes to leaving it too late to start a family, don't they?
Now you may be thinking bitches, because quite frankly that's bloody unfair isn't it? Especially if you've been trying for years and are on all sorts of supplements, herbal teas, special diets, no alcohol, no caffeine, no treats, and your life is in tatters on the floor....
It is not only unfair, it is cruel, it's distressing, isolating, frustrating, and overwhelmingly painful isn't it?So what the heck is going on then? Why is your body choosing to mess with your hormones in this way. I don't know. What I mean is I don't know why YOUR body is choosing to do this, but I do know why it happens, and in truth it's not your body's fault at all, it's your mind's. Don't take this the wrong way though, it is NOT your fault, remember this is not a 1 + 1 = 2 problem. What's happened is that somewhere along the way your mind has picked up a message that it has related to it not being 'safe' for you to get pregnant. A message that was probably useful for you at the time, but has long since passed it's use by date, and unfortunately you can't just tell your mind that it's time to stop thinking that way.You see the part of our mind that runs all of our autonomic responses, all the stuff we don't consciously control - our breathing, heart beating, reproductive processes, etc., has no intellect of it's own so it can't understand words. Instead it uses our emotions to tell the body what to do.
It's main role in fact is to use our feelings to distinguish whether we are safe or in danger. It's very primitive though, and it can't tell the difference between you getting stressed out about stuff going on in your life and real physical danger.
Which is a bummer for your fertility.
The reason being that if your subconscious mind thinks you are in danger, the last thing it will want to do is allow you to get pregnant, because you become more vulnerable. And as I was saying before somewhere along the line your subconscious took on board the message, which could be recent or years ago, that it isn't safe for you to get pregnant. Sometimes, that stress is obvious and it is useful to use strategies both practical and psychological to help you with that. Stress can also be hidden away deep within our subconscious memories, which is why this 'problem' isn't as straight forward as 1 + 1 = 2.
The good news is we don't have to consciously deal with those hidden stresses and we don't even have to know what they are, and I will share more about that next time.
For now though I want you to be aware that because your mind is inadvertently causing the problem, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, because we can use your mind to help affect change.
As I explained in my last post we do that by focusing on you and your mental health and emotional well-being. This means that we can concentrate on you taking back emotional control of your fertility journey and reclaiming the joy in life again, which quite frankly you bloody deserve, at the same time as supporting your desire to become pregnant and have the baby you so desire.
Take a look at this breakdown of the Freedom Fertility Formula to find out how.