They've given you your predicted chances of success and no matter what that figure is, you are scared that you won't be one of the lucky ones and that you will fall on the wrong side of this statistic.
You and your partner have done everything possible to get yourselves in the best physical state you can and you feel that there is nothing more that you can do. You feel that your chances of becoming a mum and dad are now fully in the hands of your medical care team.
You ask yourself the question, do I dare to dream of success?
Maybe you say to yourself, it's ok if it doesn't work out - I know that is a possibility, I won't get my hopes up.
They are up though aren't they and it's freaking you out big time?
And why wouldn't it, unless you are in the UK and are lucky enough to be getting one cycle on the NHS, this is costing you a lot of money isn't it? The chances of getting that this days is getting harder an hard with the NHS funding crisis and postcode lottery.The pressure if it is an NHS cycle is huge, because if it doesn't work you know you will be spending a huge sum of money, or maybe you don't have that money and this is your one and only shot. It is so sh*t isn't it? So bloody unfair and hard physically, mentally and emotionally. Then some clever so and so tells you to relax. Arghhhhh! Actually, slapping them round the face for their ignorance could be a useful way of getting rid of some of the stress and tension, but maybe not the most appropriate.
Is there more you can do though to help your chances of success?
According to a team from Soroka University, Israel, yes there is. During their research which used similar methods to the Freedom Fertility Formula, they found 28% of women in the group became pregnant when using mind/body connection relaxation techniques during Embryo Transfer, compared with 14% of those who did not.*
*These studies should be seen as interesting and something to be explored rather than proof.
Whilst the team at Soroka University focused solely on Embryo Transfer, believing this to be the peak of stress for those going through IVF, the Freedom Fertility Formula concentrates on your emotional resilience much earlier on in the process. This means that often our clients find that they get pregnant naturally before their IVF cycle begins.
What can you learn from this?
That whether you like it or not relaxing does help. Please don't slap me. I know - Arghhhhh! right?
What can you do to help yourself?
To avoid being slapped let me give you some useful things that you can do to help you remain calm, confident and in control throughout your IVF Process. You may also want to check out my last post on How To Survive The Emotional Stress Of IVF.
Accept that it is going to hurt if your IVF cycle fails.
I know this sounds like odd advice but actually what I see a lot with my clients is this pretence that it's ok if their IVF Cycle isn't successful. I call bullsh*t on that. Not getting your hopes up does not stop it hurting if your IVF cycle fails. Instead though your mind is giving very mixed messages to your body about what you want to happen.
Once you've accepted that it will hurt if it fails, I want you then to....
Acknowledge that you can handle the pain if it happens.
You might be asking yourself, how do I know that you can handle it when I don't know you. The answer is that EVERYONE has to deal with sh*t, it's a part of life and no-one can escape it. And here's the thing. When sh*t turns up we have to get on and deal with it. We might not want to but we do because we have no choice. Then one day we realise that we've worked through all the sh*t and we've come out the other side having handled it.
Acknowledging this is important because then you can...
Focus on success without putting pressure on it having to work.
This may sound hard to do however, once you've accepted that it will hurt if you fail and at the same time acknowledged that you can handle the worst if it happens, then you don't have to use up the power of your mind worrying about these things.
Instead you can...
Use the power of your mind to send all the right messages to your body.
This is kind of where the Soroka University research comes in but more so, because I am not just suggesting you listen to something to help you relax. I am talking about utilising the power of the mind/body connection to actually support each and every step of your IVF journey.
Whatever stage you are at in your IVF treatment think about what you want your body to do and IMAGINE it doing that. You may feel a bit silly doing that and wonder if it really makes a difference, the success rate of Freedom Fertility Formula clients tells me that it does, so ask yourself...
What have I got to lose?If you feel like it would be useful to work with a Freedom Fertility Formula Specialist as you progress through your IVF cycle, get in touch by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org with your location. We will then arrange a FREE Consultation Call for you with your local Freedom Fertility Formula Specialist, so that together you can put together the right Support Strategy for you.